Morning, those that know me well, know I am wired a little differently. I have tried really hard to be a good person, help others and try and set an example for others to follow.
When I was young, I was bullied quite a bit due to the fact I was overweight, hell, I was fat. I countered the bullies with humor when I could and worked really hard to loose weight and become the man I am today. But, there was one incident where I became a bully and it still bothers me to this day. There was an older kid I looked up to who was picking on a smaller boy, I joined in and have never been the same since that moment.
I won’t go into the feelings I had, but remember that there were many nights where I couldn’t sleep because I was thinking about what I had done. After too many nights I finally found the boy, apologized and actually made a friend out of the deal. I am telling you this story because the other day at the gym, I finally understood that I see the world differently the many people out there. So here is what happened.
An older gentleman was stretching on a mat at the gym, he finished and got up and left. As he was leaving another gentleman got down on the mat to do his stretching and just started cussing and fussing about the fact that this man had left his towel and there was also a drop of sweat or water on the mat. He was so upset at this guy he was getting up to go confront him when I reached down, took the towel and wiped up the wet spot. I told the guy not to get so upset, its taken care of, but this guy was going to tell the staff and get this guy in trouble anyway.
I listened to this guy bitch for a good 2-3 minutes about how no one seems to behave the way they should, have respect for thing, etc. When he finished, I was giggling (which didn’t really make him any happier) and told the guy to just calm down and listen.
I started explaining to him that he doesn’t know what that mans life is like, maybe his wife has alzheimer’s, or has died, maybe he is sick and can’t sleep at night, maybe he just lost his job, or maybe he really is an asshole. But you can’t pretend to know what people are going through, what they are dealing with unless you actually get to know them. He was calmed down and actually giggling by the time I said asshole, so I know he got the point. Anyway, today he approached me at the gym and he talked about how he is trying to not judge people until he can understand them a bit, he said its truly harder than anything he has ever done.
I imagine there are too many people out there who don’t give a damn about others because their own life is spend dealing with there own issues, its a shame really there are so many great people out there that no one will ever get to know because they judge too quickly. I didn’t want this to be a lecture but PEOPLE, please remember you cannot judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes (and that is actually far from true, maybe live a year in their life so you get a feel for how they deal with things), try and give everyone the same chance to impress you and you will be truly surprised with the results. Yes, there are assholes out there and you will run into them often, but try not to let that change how you see people as a whole.
This really has nothing to do with chiropractic, but it has to do with community and being I live an work in Hastings, this seemed to fit. Sorry it was so long, but I think its a point everyone needs to look at, yes it is hard to not judge on first impression, but trying is the key to making this work. Have a great week and enjoy the sunshime and possible T-storm today…
Linden Pfeiffer DC